Bullies come in all sorts of settings. But, what do you do when you encounter one in a romantic relationship? Nobody deserves to be bullied.

You are confused about your relationship or past relationship. You dismissed all the boundary violations, believed this person’s story without questioning it. Before this relationship, you had never seen this type of cruelty or believed that this type of cruelty exists. Deceit, manipulation, compulsive lying, have become the norm for your partner. They are known to twist and manipulate reality, triangulate others , perhaps entrapping them in a “trauma bond”. They may also weaponize everything you tell them against you. You feel chronically invalidated, devalued and trapped.

You probably experience cognitive dissonance regarding your partner or ex. You have a tendency to only see the good things in this person, undermining the abuse and always finding excuses for their unhealthy behaviour. Your mind cannot choose between the bad or the good memories and has a tendency to ruminate about both.

Maybe you have experienced hair loss, self isolation, perhaps insomnia, rumination about the good and bad memories, maybe the onset of autoimmune disorders, and loss of interest in activities that once made you happy. Your body is giving you indices that something is amiss. Listen to it!

You probably also experience self-perception injury and moral injury due to the devastating effects of their erratic and pervasive behaviour on you. You are probably thinking, “why did I let this happen to me?”. This is your Consciousness talking.

You always scroll through social media on this topic to find others like you who have experienced narcissistic or psychopathic abuse. This only brings you short-term relief- you constantly ruminate and no amount of retelling brings you peace. There is no closure for the injuries you have sustained.

You want to feel like you are empowered, independent, strong, and in charge. I am here to help! I use the latest evidence-based interventions to bring you relief from your symptoms. We want to dismantle your unhealthy attachment patterns to your abuser.

I am a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC). We will delve further into what keeps you “stuck”. I will provide psychoeducation on how your personality traits also maintain these unhealthy relationship dynamics. We will work on you, identifying what needs to be changed in order to develop healthy relationships.